Following a recent debate regarding the effectiveness of online dating, I’ve come to the conclusion that technology has become an excuse for bad behaviour. Though I certainly understand that these dating applications facilitate our interactions with ease, the underlying intent of the communication remains that of the individual.
For instance, I’ve never used Tinder, however my understanding is that this app is used primarily as a means of facilitating a booty call. Yet it gets an unjustified condemnation for doing its job, and quite efficiently I might add, because an individual logged on with the intent of acquiring a one night stand. Duh?! How does it even make sense to fault an application for this human behaviour?
Do I agree with the whole swipe right/swipe left mentality? Of course not. My point is, if someone is seeking a no-strings-attached relationship they will find it regardless of their internet connection.
While chatting with one of my besties, she mentioned that she was so frustrated about the fact that she only ever seemed to receive messages from guys looking for sex. I found this a bit odd, so I asked to see her profile and it was instantly obvious. Though I’m a huge supporter of having a boudoir photoshoot, I do not recommend this style of image for your online dating profile. Sorry girl, but what the hell did you think would happen? You are sending the wrong message.
Next up is the perception that online dating is a “psychological mousetrap” and that people become addicted to the attention that they receive. Really? At the risk of sounding redundant, I must highlight the obvious, these behaviours are humanly present with or without technology.
Now for those who are emotionally vulnerable, I can certainly empathize and I’m not saying that online dating is the answer. In fact, I would refrain from dating altogether and focus on self love until you can feel whole as an individual. At which point your intentions will likely attract a positive, meaningful relationship and your method of acquisition becomes irrelevant.
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